One of my favorite quotes is: “Starve your distractions. Feed your focus.”*
Too often we starve and feed the wrong things.
Sometimes we starve our bodies of nourishment. Sometimes we starve ourselves of self-love or body acceptance. Too often we feed into the diet mentality or behaviors that do more harm than good.
I want to make clear that I’m NOT referring to the law of attraction. I believe that all the focus in the world on something is not going to make something magically happen without taking the right actions.
That said, I do very strongly believe that you get more of what you focus on. For instance, if you’re experiencing post-surgery regain and you’re hyper-focused on that regain, what do you think happens? If you’re in a stall and you’re hyper-focused on the stall, what do you think happens?
I’ve found that for me personally and for many of the clients I work with, focusing on the regain or the stall gets you more of the same. More regain. The stall drags on and on. That’s because you’re focused on what’s wrong, not on what’s right.
What do you think might happen if you change that focus from the regain or the stall to instead focus on how much weight you’ve lost or kept off since surgery? Would that shift in focus begin to alleviate some of the unrealistic pressures you’re putting on yourself? Would it remove some of the urgency that can sometimes lead to unhealthy dieting and drastic measures? Would it shift your thinking in a way that empowers you to be kinder to yourself?
I’ve made dozens of small mindset shifts to overcome the post-surgery regain that I’ve now kept off for five years. One of those changes was to shift my focus away from what I was doing wrong to instead focus on what I was doing right.
Guess what happened?
…I starved the distractions.
…I starved the feeling of pressure I felt to look a certain way.
…I starved the critic in my head that was beating me up all the time.
…I starved the disordered thinking and disordered habits.
The accelerator eased up on the pressure I was putting on myself. I started instead focusing on doing more of the right things. “Going for a walk yesterday felt super good, so I’m gonna do that again today!”
Whenever I think of that quote, “starve your distractions, feed your focus,” that’s what it means to me. Stop focusing on what you don’t want, and start focusing on what you do want.
What does that quote mean to you? The answer is probably a little bit different for each one of us, and it’s worth taking some time to ponder.
Until next time my friends…
Live with purpose, live with courage and live with delight!
*Author of quote unknown.